Aren't you sick of people telling you to adopt positive thinking? Is it really that good? Do you even know what is positive thinking?
Positive thinking is simple. Basically it is just manipulating your thinking of something which is bad, and turning it into something good.
Simple yet difficult to adopt, to practise, to master. Many people are unable to have positive thinking. Someone once told me that positive thinking is self deceiving. It is true in a way.
See the thing about positive thinking is that we shouldn't look at it such that it is about the "thinking", but rather what comes with that "thinking". The mentality. The mentality that will keep you not only motivated, but determined, and having the right attitude at what you do. Assuming that you failed terribly at something, you would probably feel sad, disappointed, miserable, mulling over your failure, sulking at what you cannot achieve. However if you adopt positive thinking, you would treat it as a valuable experience, a priceless lesson in life. And with THIS thinking, you will continue to be enthusiastic at what you do, and continue to move on with life.
It is hard to get over failures, sometimes to the extent that you think its the end of the world. And these are the times when people are unable to move on with their lives, imprisoned and trapped inside their vessel of failure.
It doesn't matter if positive thinking is all about deception. Sometimes deceptions are what people need to inculcate the correct attitudes they should practise in life. Deceptions are what they need to straighten their senses and keep them on the right track, to continue moving on.
Friday, June 12, 2009
Are you the exception, or are you the rule?
Have you ever come across a situation where you keep wondering whether a boy or girl is interested in you or not?
Well usually, its really hard to tell. When you do encounter such a situation, you would usually want to read "signs". Signs like "oh he asked for my phone number! Hes gonna call me out again!" after your first date or "she everyday peek at me one leh!" or "he macam shy shy when he is in front of me..." The examples can go on and on...
However signs are often misinterpreted. People tend to manipulate the signs to convince themselves that the opposite party is interested in them. It is unfortunate but this is the human nature. And this often misleads people, which will end up in misery if the interest is one sided, or it may bring about joy! If both parties are interested.
And the thing is, when signs are manipulated and misinterpreted, you usually assume that you are the exception. When a guy asks for you phone number and doesn't call, you will think that "maybe he has lost my number, maybe he called but I didn't get the voicemail, or maybe he met with an accident..." What if that guy doesn't call because hes just not interested?
"Eh eh, she still peeking at me one leh, i think she really likes me larh~" (omg how desperate can he be). "Eh how come she stop peeking at me adi one! Maybe shes just shy..." What if she has been peeking at some other guy, or maybe even your friend sitting beside you, all along...
"Eh you know hor, that guy that I said he shy shy in front of me one, i think that guy really likes me leh. You see ah, he everyday macam around me one, but when hes really close to me, he macam want to avoid me leh. I think hes too shy to approach me wo, hehehehehhehe..." What if that guy being around you is just a coincidence, and that he really wants to avoid you, because he might think that you are interested in him and you are just not his type?
Exceptional assumptions, with exceptional scenarios, on your exceptional self... (Desperate? Pathetic?)
The one hard cold bitter truth is this, the rule rules in matters like this. If a guy is interested in you, he will call. If he wants to court you, he will do whatever it takes to make it work. If a girl likes you, she likes you and likewise.
However, is that really the truth? Rules are meant to be broken. So do we really have abide by the rules? Because if we do, then probably we will end up pushing all relationships away, destroying the slightest chances, the speck of possibilities.
Sometimes, it is these silly assumptions that spark relationships. Silly assumptions, which lead to a course of silly actions, which might make the opposite party realise that you are the one. So what if your assumptions are wrong? You might be wrong for this ONE assumption, but that doesn't mean ALL your assumptions are wrong.
If you found your special someone, he/she is your exception, your miracle. There is no rule. So allow your wild imagination to devour your conscience, let love in.
Well usually, its really hard to tell. When you do encounter such a situation, you would usually want to read "signs". Signs like "oh he asked for my phone number! Hes gonna call me out again!" after your first date or "she everyday peek at me one leh!" or "he macam shy shy when he is in front of me..." The examples can go on and on...
However signs are often misinterpreted. People tend to manipulate the signs to convince themselves that the opposite party is interested in them. It is unfortunate but this is the human nature. And this often misleads people, which will end up in misery if the interest is one sided, or it may bring about joy! If both parties are interested.
And the thing is, when signs are manipulated and misinterpreted, you usually assume that you are the exception. When a guy asks for you phone number and doesn't call, you will think that "maybe he has lost my number, maybe he called but I didn't get the voicemail, or maybe he met with an accident..." What if that guy doesn't call because hes just not interested?
"Eh eh, she still peeking at me one leh, i think she really likes me larh~" (omg how desperate can he be). "Eh how come she stop peeking at me adi one! Maybe shes just shy..." What if she has been peeking at some other guy, or maybe even your friend sitting beside you, all along...
"Eh you know hor, that guy that I said he shy shy in front of me one, i think that guy really likes me leh. You see ah, he everyday macam around me one, but when hes really close to me, he macam want to avoid me leh. I think hes too shy to approach me wo, hehehehehhehe..." What if that guy being around you is just a coincidence, and that he really wants to avoid you, because he might think that you are interested in him and you are just not his type?
Exceptional assumptions, with exceptional scenarios, on your exceptional self... (Desperate? Pathetic?)
The one hard cold bitter truth is this, the rule rules in matters like this. If a guy is interested in you, he will call. If he wants to court you, he will do whatever it takes to make it work. If a girl likes you, she likes you and likewise.
However, is that really the truth? Rules are meant to be broken. So do we really have abide by the rules? Because if we do, then probably we will end up pushing all relationships away, destroying the slightest chances, the speck of possibilities.
Sometimes, it is these silly assumptions that spark relationships. Silly assumptions, which lead to a course of silly actions, which might make the opposite party realise that you are the one. So what if your assumptions are wrong? You might be wrong for this ONE assumption, but that doesn't mean ALL your assumptions are wrong.
If you found your special someone, he/she is your exception, your miracle. There is no rule. So allow your wild imagination to devour your conscience, let love in.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
a strange encounter
Last night i was watched a damn good movie.
When i finished, it was already around 2.30 a.m. So i after i finished, i left my room. The living room was dark as usual. Everyone was asleep. And by dark i dont mean just dark, its spooky dark, because I live on the 12th floor and there is hardly any light, no street lights, no neighbours' houses lights etc etc. It is almost pitch black. The first thing i noticed was the living room fan was still on; hmmm strange, but not strange, because it is usual for my father/brother to forget to switch it off.
So i went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. While i was filling my cup with water, i heard a strange noise. I couldn't identify what was the noise, and where was it from, so i assumed that it was from outside the kitchen. Then i heard the same noise again, this time i confirmed it was from the living room. OK... what the hell. After i finished my glass of water, i decided to see what is this thingy making those funny noises. Ghost? Spirit? What the heck. So i switched on the living room lights and...
"EH! What the hell? Why u on the lights?" Lol my brother was sleeping in the living room. He mentioned earlier to me while i was watching the movie halfway that he couldn't sleep. So now he told me he slept in the living room because he couldn't sleep in his room.
Though this incident might seem usual, nothing paranormal about, but it is significant to me because my house feng shui very bad = (. Personally i have had an encounter with "something" when i was sleeping in the living room, which explains why i presumed that the noise had to be made by "something". And by "something" which i encountered in the past, that "something" is really "something", not just any "something"...
When i finished, it was already around 2.30 a.m. So i after i finished, i left my room. The living room was dark as usual. Everyone was asleep. And by dark i dont mean just dark, its spooky dark, because I live on the 12th floor and there is hardly any light, no street lights, no neighbours' houses lights etc etc. It is almost pitch black. The first thing i noticed was the living room fan was still on; hmmm strange, but not strange, because it is usual for my father/brother to forget to switch it off.
So i went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. While i was filling my cup with water, i heard a strange noise. I couldn't identify what was the noise, and where was it from, so i assumed that it was from outside the kitchen. Then i heard the same noise again, this time i confirmed it was from the living room. OK... what the hell. After i finished my glass of water, i decided to see what is this thingy making those funny noises. Ghost? Spirit? What the heck. So i switched on the living room lights and...
"EH! What the hell? Why u on the lights?" Lol my brother was sleeping in the living room. He mentioned earlier to me while i was watching the movie halfway that he couldn't sleep. So now he told me he slept in the living room because he couldn't sleep in his room.
Though this incident might seem usual, nothing paranormal about, but it is significant to me because my house feng shui very bad = (. Personally i have had an encounter with "something" when i was sleeping in the living room, which explains why i presumed that the noise had to be made by "something". And by "something" which i encountered in the past, that "something" is really "something", not just any "something"...
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